My sons and I go to a Bible study every week. Each week all participants learn about the same topics and scripture. Though the learned concepts are the same, the children’s classes are working at an appropriate level for their grades, while the adult classes are diving in a bit deeper.
This has been great all year, a coming together for the three of us to learn the same topics and enter into a weekly discussion. Pretty cool, right? Learning biblical truths with my kiddos, loving that.
Until this week…these are the verses we were working on.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 New International Version (NIV)
18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
I do not have an issue talking or writing about sex, um…sex blogger here. But, I do have an issue with my 9 year old discussing sex. His question to me, when studying this week was, “Mom, what is sexual immorality?” which made me stop and really have to think about how to answer him.
It would have been really easy to tell him WHY sexual immorality is wrong, or a sin, or why it is destructive… but that was not his question. He first needed to know what it meant to be sexually immoral.
How do I go about explaining sex to a 9 year old who has yet to even experience puberty? For all he knows Mommy and Daddy have a streak of kisses we keep track of on our bathroom mirror.
He has known the names of the body parts since he was a toddler; we were never ones to call genitals by nicknames. Naming the body parts is not the problem. So, I am perplexed…me the sex blogger…perplexed on how to define the act of sex to a 9 year old boy so he can then understand how sexual immorality differs from other kinds of sin.
I think before I overwhelm my child with the ins and outs (oh, just got that, HA!) of sex, I should start with the ups and downs of puberty. I definitely do not want to hide sex from my children, but I also am sure that there is a time and place to discuss sex. And I am pretty sure 9 is too early.
This question of understanding how sexual immorality differs from other sins should have been a question for the junior high and high school group in our Bible study…am I being too restrictive here? Am I out of line with my thinking? I think not…
To put it into more context, my younger son (age 7) had the same area of scripture to discuss in his class. The actual scripture was not addressed and instead of the concept of sex being brought up, the questions in their book revolved around God knowing you before you were born and how to treat your body. So, at least there is that…no 7 year olds discussing sex… phew.